Boundaries
6/2/2024
I am currently learning how to set boundaries with everyone in my life. The first quarter of my life I was a people pleaser. I was also spineless at times, I would let certain people (including family members) walk all over me because I was seeking validation from them, or I was scared of their reaction if I were to advocate for myself.
Well, I am expecting a child now. I am currently 14 weeks pregnant, I don’t have time to sit and worry about people’s opinions of me, I need to be able to set boundaries not only for myself, but to protect my child.
Here are a list of boundaries that I’ve made for me and my child:
Wash or sanitize your hands before touching my baby!
No posting my child on social media without my permission.
Do not speak negatively about me or the child’s father especially around my child.
No unannounced visits.
If you dare to criticize my parenting, you will no longer have access to me or my child, period.
No baby passing, (handing my baby off to other people).
If my baby is crying, give me back my child.
Do not come to the hospital unless I personally invited you.
Teeth should be rushed before you kiss my child (for family).
DO NOT PLAY VIDEOS FOR MY CHILD! I am limiting and monitoring my child’s screen time, this includes Ms. Rachel, Cocomelon, and Bluey! If you are unable to watch my child without distracting them with a screen, then DO NOT BABYSIT MY CHILD.
Do not cuss or use vulgar language in front of my child.
Ask if you can hold my child before reaching for them.
These are a few rules/boundaries that I am setting, I’m sure the list will increase as time goes on, but I thought that it would a great idea to get started.
Take care of yourself and never let people cross your boundaries that YOU have set.
-Nosipho Relebohile Monese, BSN, RN, CEO.