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Things I’ve learned in my twenties, but especially from ages 24-25.
5-27-2024
I always thought that I am way too young to be making a “things I’ve learned in my twenties” post. I could’ve sworn that I haven’t reached that level yet. However, after attaining my bachelors, becoming a Registered Nurse, moving across the country, growing on social media, traveling the world, having a very public manic episode, being engaged, going to backstage VIP events…OH… And getting pregnant.. I think I owe it to myself to create a “things I’ve learned in my twenties” post.
Let the good times role… On a budget though or you WILL be broke throughout all of your twenties.
You can be friendly without being friends.
California girls ain’t got sh*t on the midwest baddies… I said it.
America is so different girl… States should truly be countries.
Stay up to date with the news around the world.
Be Useful.
Let those who don’t show appreciation for you walk away from you. Let those who love you, love you. There is no need to surround yourself with negative energy.
Bloom wherever you are planted, even if the soil is tough.. BLOOM.
If you have a problem with the government, be the change. Sitting and complaining about it isn’t doing much for our society.
Our generation is ruthless. I love it.
Smiling is free. Don’t be a brat.
Be mindful of who you exert your energy to, there are some people in the world that want to use your energy to better themselves… Those people are also called leeches or serpents… Snakes… Blood suckers. Those are not your friends.
You are more than enough. Even if you have to walk alone sometimes, know that you are more than enough. You are excellence, and it is 1000% okay to be alone, if you feel lonely when you are alone lean to God and your God-given gifts. Your Nosipho’s (“gift from God”).
CUT THAT FAKE A$$ FRIEND OFF. CUT THAT BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND OFF… HONEY… Let me tell you something, if you are gonna sit here and waste your twenties on someone who clearly does not love you, who does not want to learn how to love you, who does not WANT you… be my guest. However, you will be much happier walking ALONE than feening off of the fake validation that you’re seeking from someone who doesn’t even blink an eye at your existence.
Drink more water bookie bear.
SLEEP. There is no reason for you to be awake unless you have a child or something… Go to bed.
Move your body. As you age you’ll notice that your body is changing/aging too, so take advantage of your youth.
Take the risk. Take the leap of faith. This is your time to make moves, memories and mistakes without people saying you’re, “too old”.
Pray. Your relationship with God should begin to increase as your journey in life lengthens. I find that attending church, prayer, and manifestations have helped me the most during my twenties.
Protect your peace. This can be practiced in many ways such as, taking that day off for your mental health. Honestly, taking time to give your brain a a break to rest is not only necessary, but healing. I’m team, CALL IN TO PROTECT YOUR SANITY. We all need a day to breathe sometimes.
I hope this was able to give you some clarity into the reality of being in your twenties.
Lots of love to you,
Nosipho Relebohile Monese, BSN, RN, CEO.
Boundaries
Iearning how to set boundaries with friends/family in a healthy manner
6/2/2024
I am currently learning how to set boundaries with everyone in my life. The first quarter of my life I was a people pleaser. I was also spineless at times, I would let certain people (including family members) walk all over me because I was seeking validation from them, or I was scared of their reaction if I were to advocate for myself.
Well, I am expecting a child now. I am currently 14 weeks pregnant, I don’t have time to sit and worry about people’s opinions of me, I need to be able to set boundaries not only for myself, but to protect my child.
Here are a list of boundaries that I’ve made for me and my child:
Wash or sanitize your hands before touching my baby!
No posting my child on social media without my permission.
Do not speak negatively about me or the child’s father especially around my child.
No unannounced visits.
If you dare to criticize my parenting, you will no longer have access to me or my child, period.
No baby passing, (handing my baby off to other people).
If my baby is crying, give me back my child.
Do not come to the hospital unless I personally invited you.
Teeth should be rushed before you kiss my child (for family).
DO NOT PLAY VIDEOS FOR MY CHILD! I am limiting and monitoring my child’s screen time, this includes Ms. Rachel, Cocomelon, and Bluey! If you are unable to watch my child without distracting them with a screen, then DO NOT BABYSIT MY CHILD.
Do not cuss or use vulgar language in front of my child.
Ask if you can hold my child before reaching for them.
These are a few rules/boundaries that I am setting, I’m sure the list will increase as time goes on, but I thought that it would a great idea to get started.
Take care of yourself and never let people cross your boundaries that YOU have set.
-Nosipho Relebohile Monese, BSN, RN, CEO.
Blog Post Title Three
It all begins with an idea.
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.
Blog Post Title Four
It all begins with an idea.
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.